The Answer… April 13, 2007
So the ex-wife never came to viist, but not because D told her he couldn’t and that he wasn’t comfortable with her coming around. She actually emailed him to find out when would be a good time to come to our house and he wrote her back to say he actually hadn’t checked in with me about it….and then he just never ot back to her. So naturally it makes it look like after checking in with me I was the one that said she couldn’t come…which I was technically going to do, but didn’t have to because he came to that answer all on his own.
It just goes to show that even after all this time and heartache, he still can’t disappoint her. I’m not holding it against him though, because I know how hard it can be to tell someone how you really feel. Like for example I’m not telling him that it bothers me he used me as a scapegoat. I’m just letting it lie….well at least until the next time she wants to come visit.
The question… April 3, 2007
To meet the ex-wife or not?…I say no - NO! She wants to come to our house with her boyfriend to visit (aka check out her ex-husband’s new life - new woman) and meet Miss S. Right…why else would she come? She doesn’t maintain a friendship with D. She was horrible to him while they were married…why else come to our house? At first I decided I would suck it up and let her come if that is what D wanted…even though I know how much she hurt him…but then I started thinking about the point. There was none! Why would I want to meet someone who wrecked my boyfriend? I don’t want to. And thankfully D decided he didn’t want her to come either.
I’m waiting though…for her to try to schedule it and for him to cave and ask if we could just let them come by for a little bit. If that happens, then I am going to be strong for him and say no - a resounding NO! If he still can’t do it for himself. I will do it for him.
